For the past two weeks, I have gone to sleep alone. I have woken up alone. And I have enjoyed every minute of it.
Over the course of our marriage, DH & I have gone through periods during which we've slept in different beds. Articles like
this one make me think I'm probably not the only one, although -- at least in my circle -- I am the only one who admits it. But the proof is in the pudding; statistics show some couples are even going as far as building new homes with TWO master bedrooms.
The reasons are simple enough: his snoring, my pregnancies, his crazy schedule. This time, the instigator was a terrible head cold that has been plaguing us both. It's keeping him up all night coughing; it's making me have to change positions every 15 minutes. It was a mutual decision that he would sleep downstairs, on the couch (with the completion of Baby C's nursery, we no longer have a spare bedroom for guests -- or husbands who've been kicked out of bed), while I stayed in our nice, big, comfy bed.
Our sleeping arrangements -- while separate -- are by no means equal. My six and a half foot tall husband is forced to contort his body into wildly grotesque positions in order to lay down on our couch; it's amazing he's able to sleep at all. Meanwhile, I luxuriate on our queen bed (yes, I know a king-size would give us more space and probably alleviate the need for separate sleeping spaces at times -- but our bedroom furniture is my favorite piece in the house, and I refuse to replace it!) on sheets with an obscenely high thread count. But you know what? I'm pregnant, due literally any day, and I'm selfish -- I have no problem admitting that.
What about you...
What situations or reasons lead to this?
This is a hot topic for me, and my family (all of them) T-rex and I did have different bedrooms for about 8 months. I was not pregnate. For YEARS he slept on the couch, the he got the breathing thing dealt with and we tried to sleep in the same room. It worked okay for about 2 years. But I couldn't take it anymore.
I set up my own room, my own full sized bed, and when he was gone for nearly 6 months that is where I slept. I liked it, it was MY space.
But then we moved the kids around, got a king bed and now are back to sleeping in the same room. I do look forward to his month working nights!
But everyone in my family wanted to tell me how wrong it was for us to have different rooms. But it worked for us. And I liked it that way.
We have a king bed and DH rarely sleeps in it. He usually ends up sleeping with one of the kids.
Snoring! Insane snoring. Chris goes to the couch!
My husband snores. I can take it. When he drinks more than a few beeers he SNORES. I cannot take that. So on those occasions he takes the guest room and I take our bedroom.
Yes, for snoring/breathing like Darth Vader. Not often though. Sometimes I feel bad since I'm home all day and he has to get up and work, so I head out to the couch for a bit. Usually though? Earplugs.
I am so glad to read a post like this. I thought I was the only one in the world that didn't sleep in the same bed with my husband for pro-longed periods of time.
Very similar to you, with my first pregnancy my husband slept in the spare bedroom for the entire pregnancy. At the time he had significant snoring issues (since has had surgery) and I was so uncomfortable. I needed my space. We started sleeping together in the same bed the first night our daughter slept in our house. We have since gotten a king bed, which I have to say makes a world of difference to me. I still have to deal with the snoring every once in a while, but that is what ear plugs are for.
You are not the only one. Hang in there!
Hopping by to wish you and yours a joy filled Easter Weekend!
I can't remember the last time we slept in the same bed for more than 3 nights in a row. I travel a lot for work. He is a night owl. The kids end up in our bed. He falls asleep on the couch. I fall asleep in the couch. He travels with his business. Really, I am not sure I could sleep with him at this point.
This posting made me chuckle. My husband and I do share a bed even though it's not usual for one of us to fall asleep on the couch or get up in the middle of the night to move to the couch. We do have friends that recently set up a spare room as the husband's room. They each wanted their own spaces - we all got to do what works for us :) Good luck with the baby.