I think true friendship is about sharing everything openly and honestly--your hopes, your dreams, your fears, your stuff. But even I worry that my friends and I might have gone a bit too far.
As I sit here typing this, I am wearing my friend "M"'s bra. M had her second child last June, and had a plethora of D-cup bras from her 3rd trimester and nursing days that have come in really handy since a "boob bomb" went off in my chest. Unable to wear any of my own bras, I readily accepted M's offer to borrow hers for the next few months.
But as the Cat In The Hat would say, "That is not all, oh no, that is not all." Because when I take G swimming this evening, I will be wearing my friend "A"'s maternity bathing suit. Despite spending the entire third trimester of my first pregnancy in the summer months, I somehow managed to get by with a single maternity swimsuit. But when I pulled that suit out of storage a few months ago, I saw that time (and mostly chlorine) had taken its toll. As I lamented this to A, and asked her where I could find some inexpensive maternity suits in the middle of the winter, she ran upstairs and grabbed two of hers.
I'm not just on the mooching receiving end of all this generosity. Oh no, I've been loaning my stuff out too... including an item that just might prove my friendships are a little too close. Because when M was at my house a few weeks ago for a moms' night out, she realized she'd forgotten the single most important thing all nursing moms need: her breast pump. Rather than drive home, I pulled down mine from storage, steam cleaned all the parts, and let her use it (and, I have to add as a little anecdote here, use it she did; in the middle of moms' night, while the rest of us continued to hold our conversations as though our friend's boobs weren't on display... well, when you meet in a class designed for nursing mothers, I guess breast-shyness isn't really in your vocabulary!).
I'm still debating whether or not to use the reusable, cotton, organic nursing pads my friend "T" lent me... what do you think?
ahh the boob stuff is no big deal, I mean your kid eats off them, then your friends kiss your kid and well its all fun and nice until a little milk stash gets kissed off by some unknowing friend. But that is maybe a little to much to share.
I think you're still with in the world of normal friends sharing stuff, but I don't get all worried about germs and such. wash and move on. . .I mean how many guys forget to wash their hands?
I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Once you join the Mom Club, really anything goes! Three of my sisters and I have all used the same breast pump. Those things are expensive! I hope you and your babies are well. :)
I would do the same thing (loan my pump) and use someone else's (as long as it was clean) if I needed to!
Truthfully, the only thing that's kinda weird that I've let a friend borrow is a bra. I don't normally have a surplus of stuff to lend (I'm trying to simplify over here!) so I don't do it often. Is that bad?
Bras, breastpumps, all that is ok with me. The swimmingsuit...I'm kind of iffy...but I don't know...seeing how much they cost my make me just borrow my friend's too! xD
I think it's cool that you can do that with your friend. Mine wouldn't even go underneath me when I climbed the shelves, and she needed to pass. She walked around!! I asked her if I smelled funny...she blushed, and said no. I told her to be honest, even though I had just taken a shower; she still said no. She's funny like that, though...LOL
I think it's great you have all those resources to borrow things like that from, doesn't seem weird to me.