In this corner...
Weighing in at (oh wait, my mother would kill me if I revealed her real weight) ??? pounds...
At 58 years old (she's proud of her age, so that's ok)...
It's G's Grama!!!
And in this corner...
Weighing in at (ok, maybe it was a bad idea to include this physical statistic for a couple of middle-aged women)...
Also at 58 years old...
It's G's Nanny!!!
No! Never!
G's Grama & her Nanny are not locked into an all out war!
G's Nanny... as in "sitter"... has been with us for over a year now. She does not live with us; she is not a licensed au pair. She is just a wonderful woman who we found through a wonderful website who takes amazing care of our daughter, as if she were her own.
But my own mother... well... she lives in Ohio, hundreds of miles away from her only grandchild. And, she is
NOT insanely absurdly obsessively jealous of the Nanny.
Round 1:
First WordsG has shown quite the early flair for talking... gee, I wonder who she gets that from? From G's earliest days, my mom has
NOT been trying to
bribe coerce G into saying her name before anyone else's. Realizing that a baby's mouth is constructed to say hard consonants like "D" and "K" before soft consonants like "G" and "M", my mother asked the whole family to start referring to her as "Cookie". This approach definitely did NOT work, especially once my mother introduced G to animal crackers (which G calls "Cookies") during our summer vacation to the beach. So, even though G easily mastered all words starting with "D"-- which includes her Nanny's name--
--Round 1 goes to my mother.
Round 2:
R Is For RoutineMaybe you haven't noticed... but I am, well, I am NOT a bit OCD. Oh whatever. Anyway, that applies to G too. Ever since I went back to work last January, I've had her on a routine that really seems to work well with everyone's schedule. The Nanny has always stuck to this routine, written in a solid hand on the refrigerator white board. My mother, on the few times she's come down from Ohio to babysit, has NOT "accidentally" wiped off my clearly written instructions, claimed she "forgot" what they said, and allowed G to stay up until 10pm just having fun. Nope. Not MY mother!
--Round 2 goes to the Nanny.
Round 3:
The GiverMy mom is a notorious over-spender at Christmas time... at birthdays... at half-birthdays... at Easter... I think you get the picture. She spoils her only granddaughter (oh, all right, and her only daughter, too) rotton. But we did NOT have to raise the Nanny's Christmas bonus just because we knew she was going to spend half of it on her "client" anyway.
--Round 3 is a tie.
So it comes down to...
Round 4:
What's In A Name?My mother picked out my prom dress. She picked out my wedding dress. And she did NOT pick out G's name years before she was born... heck, I think my mom came up with it even before DH & I were married! Obviously, I did NOT love her suggestion and use it on my firstborn. And although G is not NOT (no double negatives intended) named after my mom, I can't help but think of my mom when I say my daughter's name.
--Round 4 goes to my mother.
My mom wins the fight!But this isn't a competition. How could it ever be? She's my mother... G's grandmother... she's as much a part of us as we are of her.
Do you have two people in your life who compete for your (or your children's) attention?