So as one of my friends from high school pointed out (a friend who is also a reader of this blog), I gave ya'll quite a shock and quite a cliffhanger in my last post. I hadn't planned on posting again so soon-- I'm exhausted and nauseous beyond belief-- but I did want to continue the story...
My faithful readers will remember this post, where DH & I announced our intentions to have G and only G. That was the plan. To be perfectly honest, I'm still having a tough time coming to terms with the fact that it is no longer the plan. But that's another issue for another post.
Right now, we don't have an exact due date for this baby. Unlike with G, we weren't trying; I wasn't charting, so I don't know what my basal body temperature was, what my cervical mucus was like (I know, this is TMI), or whether my breasts were tender (let's be honest-- after nursing a child for 14 months, does anyone feel anything in that region?). We were supposed to be relying on natural family planning, but G broke my thermometer about a week into my cycle, so I figured, "I know my body well enough, I'll know when I've ovulated."
DH & I were playing it safe, waiting until that magical "ovulation moment" before-- ahem-- "coupling." We didn't want to chance anything. Then one night, inspired by a late-night thunderstorm... well, I'm not going to go into specifics, you get the picture. But I do remember lying there afterwards, thinking, "Uh-oh."
It had taken us 7 months and one miscarriage to get pregnant with G. We had charted, used herbal supplements, and placed my hips on a pillow for months. I had never ovulated earlier than 20 days into my cycle. I thought, surely, there was no way one random night two weeks into my cycle would result in a baby.
Needless to say, I thought wrong.
It was a very stressful two weeks as I waited to test. There were times when I thought for sure I was pregnant, even though I hadn't felt a single symptom. There were other times when I convinced myself I was just paranoid. I remembered back to when we were trying to conceive G; I remembered hearing about women who "accidentally" got pregnant, and responding with bitter, venomous, jealous words at their "luck." There was no way I could be one of those women.
So, we went on with our lives for two weeks. I wasn't worried when my period didn't show up on time. I've had wacked out cycles for years, and even though they've regulated a little bit since having G, I still haven't had two cycles of the same length back to back. By the time I was three days late, I caved and tested. It was negative. I breathed a sigh of relief. Now, I just had to wait for Aunt Flo to arrive.
But she didn't. So a few days later, I tested again. There was no doubt about it-- there was a second, dark, red line on the test. I was pregnant.
I didn't do anything cute like put a "Big Sister" shirt on G to show DH when he got home. I simply called him up and said, "I'm pregnant." He didn't know how to respond. He was in shock as much as I was. I think he still is. Even though we've been to the doctor for some initial blood work (the appointment I referred to in yesterday's post), he still can't quite believe it.
I go to the doctor's again for an early ultrasound on the 27th, when I figure I'll be somewhere between eight and nine weeks along. Maybe once we see that little baby's heart beating, it will seem more real. Right now, it just feels like a dream... or somebody else's life...
i'm sure this is a tough time, while you weren't expecting or really wanting any more kids. but maybe this couldn't come at a better time(??) with you leaving your job in december and all.
My oldest, Buddy, was a complete accident. And then, it took a year and medications and tests and all the unpleasant things to conceive our second. I've been on both sides of the coin. It's hard to believe that you can experience both.
And for what it's worth, I didn't full appreciate my pregnancy, nor did it seem real, until I had my first shower at about 8 months preggo with my first. It was crazy.
Congratulations!!! YEA!! I was the same way with my 3rd and I still have NO IDEA how my 4th got here! NO IDEA!
Whoa...I have been away from blogging for a few weeks and this is the first post I see. How exciting. My hubby and I had a similar thing where we were talking about trying again and low and behold we didn't need to talk about it anymore. I hope you start to feel better soon.
Thank you for posting again so soon despite how you're feeling. I did get to the end of the post yesterday and was like "What? THAT'S where she ends it?!"
I hope you feel better soon, both physically and emotionally.
Well congrats!!! My babies weren't planned, but love em just the same!
Wow Elizabeth! Lots of changes going on!! Buckle up!! ;o) Congrats.
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Congrats!!! Can't wait for that 8 week u/s to get an exact date...
Here's to a happy & healthy 9 months!
My third was sort of like that. It took a while for me to really think of the pregnancy as real or as something to rejoice in. Until it finally hit me and then I was happy about it.
But, since I don't think you're quite there yet, I'll hold off on the congrats. ;)
Although unexpected what an exciting thing! I bet you will love having two :)
God works in mysterious ways...
My 2nd come very easily compared to the 2 miscarriages and months of fertilty treatments and butt under pillow nights (and temping, CM charting, saliva microscopes...etc...)
Lifting my glass to a healthy baby!
EEEEE! Congratulations!!!
You are handling this surprisingly well. I admire your strength. I cried for three months when I unexpectedly got prego.
You have a great blog. I am thrilled to find another working mom blogger.
Congrats, even though you weren't planning it! I'm sure it's a difficult time of changes but you can do it! Change sometimes is for the best even when we can't see it at the time!
I don't really know what to say here, because I can hear how unprepared (unsure?) you are about this, but... I truly believe that everything happens for a reason and that babies are always something to celebrate. So....
CONGRATULATIONS... Hopefully that pregnancy elation will kick in soon!
I really respect your honesty and openness here. Many people would put on a smiley face and act like it was the most fabulous thing on earth, but unplanned pregnancies can be tough.
I had that exact "uh-oh" moment over ten years ago, and I was right, too. And of course, I adore the result of that "uh-oh" moment. But it was quite a shock!
Congrats to you and your family! I know what a shock an unexpected pregnancy can be. The shock eventually settles into excitement. Keep in mind...everything happens for a reason!
My pregnancy with baby #3 came 3 months after baby #2! I was breastfeeding so I thought I was "safe".... Wrong! I remember crying in the doctors office when I got the results...
Awwwww, congrats! I know those first few months of an unplanned pregnancy are completely shocking, I felt the same way... But then the baby love hits and you forget all those crazy feelings ;) Praying that everything goes smoothly for you and your family- lots of big changes happening! =)
I know it can be hard to find out this news when it is not what you expect. My 2nd daughter was not planned at the moment we conceived her, but we knew we wanted a second. But the way I looked at it was that I made the decision to take that chance and God had a baby in store for us that night :-)
She is beautiful and I can't imagine what life would be like without her, just like your baby will be.
congratulaaaations!!!!
take care! :)
Elizabeth, it´s been a while that I´ve visited your blog. And now I´m reading about these wonderful news! Congratulations! I understand how you are feeling about this pregnancy. I also love to have my life being planned!!! I remember a few times when I thought I was pregnant and how scared I was. Because it didn´t fit in my time schedule. And lucky me I was´nt pregnant! When we were planning to have our third child I was already 37 (our kids are all 4 years apart)and not sure if I really wanted it, because my other two were already big and the I would have to start all over again. It was a tough decision for us. Anyway, I got pregnant and was scared during almost the whole pregnancy, but to be honest I´m so happy now that we have our little Girl who is 2 1/2 now!I ´m sure everything will be fine and you will get used to the thought of being pregnant. And your little girl will be excited to get a brother or a sister. Have a wonderful weekend.
I´ll be thinging of you!
Hug´s,
Verena
Lots of changes going on for you! I hope that you all work through this shock quickly! I know what it is like to have a "surprise" and can relate to that completely. I also thought, "uh-oh." It's so hard when MY pland and God's plans don't align ;) Take care!
I am so glad I decided to read your blog -- congratulations! I imagine I would feel a LOT like you do if that happened to us. I hope G had a wonderful 2nd birthday (I didn't realize she was only turning 2 for some reason!) and will be praying for you! <3
Awh I can understand what a shock that must have been, and what an emotional roller coaster you are on. I do think things happen for a reason though. (((HUGS)))
Regardless of whether or not you were planning...there are reasons for everything that happens...and guessing your little one will love being the big sis afterall! Take a deep breath and take it all in! Sending hugs your way! Everything works out on its own!
I am someone who likes to plan things out, but the best things in my life are the ones that did not go as I planned. Best Wishes to you and your growing family!
Hey girl,
I'm so happy for your little family. I'm sure it's quite a shock for your system. Aidan was unplanned, so I know how you feel. Whether you're ready or not, sometimes things just happen. You are such a wonderful Mother to G, so I know you'll be a wonderful Mother to the little one on the way. Take your time and let your emotions do what they need to do. It's a stressful, not always happy time when you find out you are pregnant and it wasn't on the agenda. But, God works in mysterious ways. Obviously he wanted you guys to have another! Perhaps it's the next President?
Praying for you all!
Congratulations! I'm sure it will sink in once you have that dr's appt. Took me a while when I saw those lines too.
That is great news--you all are in my prayers.
Congratulations! Summer got a little bit in the way of my blogging... I'm trying to get back into it now. This was a nice post to come back to! :)
Congrats to you! What a nice surprise!
I was in your shoes EXACTLY one year ago today. It took 2 years (and 3 miscarriages) to get PG with my daughter. There was NO WAY I thought I could get pregnant again, let alone "by accident". But then, amazingly, I did.
My second pregnancy was very uncomfortable and I felt terrible I hadn't bonded with my unborn the way I did with my first. I was scared about what life with two would be like, especially in our situation.
Then he was born, and I instantly fell IN LOVE. He takes my breath away. Every day. Yes, things are exhausting and hectic, but so is life. And I'm so grateful for the little guy that takes my breath away every day!
Congrats. You'll have 9 months to get used to the idea and adjust!
Watching the relationship of siblings grow between my 2 sons is by far the best part of being a mom! Congratulations...it will all work out and you'll always have a great story to tell!!!
Having two that are good friends... is wonderful! ;) we weren't trying with number two either... and I thought I had it all figured out... when I was "safe"... yeah... not so much... ha ha! but I love how close they are in age... and they have become good friends!! ;) Congrats!!
This is wonderful news! I know it may take some time to adjust and it is okay to cry. I did when I found out I was pregnant when my oldest was only about 15 months old. We hadn't been trying. I had just weaned Em three months before and all I could think about was the sleepless nights. I don't think it sunk in until I saw her heartbeat and then suddenly I knew we would figure it out and that I loved her.