Truthful Tuesdays-- Do-over!
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Have you ever felt like seen, read, or heard something before?
Have you ever felt like seen, read, or heard something before?
I know for me, I have scenes from my life that I replay over... and over... and over... wishing I'd said or done something differently.
So, today-- on Groundhog's Day-- I'm channeling Bill Murray's classic 1993 comedy, and asking you:
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In case you somehow missed "Groundhog's Day" (the movie, not Punxsutawney Phil's appearance this morning in Pennsylvania), here's a synopsis in one
I've been mulling over this question-- and my answer-- for a long time now. I've had times when I unequivocably knew what I would write, only to rethink it and change my mind. Here's what I've come up with:
I could say that I don't regret anything, that the mistakes I made in my past have made me the person I am today. But while that's undeniably true, I think it's a bit of a cop out. How can any person not have a single regret? I really don't think that's possible.
So here's my story...
I have always been known for having a bit of a
First, let me clarify. I did not call my boss stupid. I called his ideas stupid. I maintain there is a difference. DH says it's just semantics, and that if he told me I was acting like a b!tch, I would take it the same as if he'd actually called me by that name.
Point taken.
On that particular day, my boss wanted to lead my newscast with a story that had absolutely no local relevance to my viewers. It fell into the category of "If it bleeds, it leads,", which I wholeheartedly object to. I stated my opinion, um, rather loudly... and he heard me.He didn't call me into his office.
He didn't yell back at me.
He simply shook his head, walked into his office, and closed his door.
I was in big trouble.
I spent the rest of the day-- and that night-- in fear. My boss had sent me an email that he didn't want to see or hear from me for the rest of that work day, and that he'd see me in the morning for a meeting.I thought for sure I was about to be fired.
I walked into my boss's office with my hands clammy, my heart pounding, and my mind running; how would I talk my way out of the trouble my mouth had already gotten me into?
I honestly don't remember exactly what I said, other than I laid one big "Mea Culpa" at his feet and begged his forgiveness. He acknowledged my talent, my comraderie with my coworkers, and my ratings success; and vowed that if such an outburst ever happend again, I would be looking for a new job.
If I had to do that day over-- the day that probably sealed my fate at my job, guaranteeing I would never be promoted to management-- I would. What would I change?
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I have deja vu incidents all the time!
As far as a do-over, I wouldn't make any major changes, but there are a few times that I regret saying something or even more common - regret NOT saying something when I had an opportunity!
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Thanks for stopping by. I did a do over today. I posted a review on the wrong day.
If the groundhog tried to see his shadow in South Carolina today. He would get wet.
Oh my! There is so much that I wish I had not said or done. I dn't know that I could just pick one and then again I truly do believe that each occurrence has some effect that gets you where you are like the butterfly effect. But if I could choose to change something without changing the impact it has had on my life...I had a co-worker once that seriously grated on my nerves. I was unmerciful in my letting her and everyone else know that I thought she was truly incompetent. It disgusts me now to think of how I treated her and the impact that had on how other people treated her.
Oh gosh, I would have been a nervous wreck. I HATE when my mouth speaks before I can sensor it.
I have a list of regrets on my blog. It sucks to want to go back and make changes, especially since it's impossible.
Groundhog Day was filmed in my town and every year the local movie theater plays it for free. My husband and I went to see it and had this very conversation on Sunday.
Oh wow...oops? Great post.
I wrote a post recently on do-overs. I don't think really that there is anything I truly wish I could go back and change.
I went in a bit of a different direction than your post...I certainly feel there are things I should regret and wish to change but I would not ...just can't its not me and frankly it would scare me to death to think about replaying any one thing...I love different!
At the moment I am feeling sorry and pouty for myself - I fell running yesterday and my knee is protesting, so I won't be running for a few days at least. This makes me cranky. So my do-over is to not have tripped over NOTHING yesterday - that my inner klutz would have stayed nestled away yesterday - that I would not go sprawling onto the pavement and land on my knee. Sorry, if I wasn't such a spoiled baby I could be a bit more philosophical, but right now I'm sulking,
Ooops... Total open mouth, insert foot moment huh?
Stopping by from crazymomadventures.blogspot.com
My do-over is posted there :-)
My do- over would be a good one. I would like to relive moments with my grandmother. I miss her everyday. Great post girlie!
I have to think about this one for awhile but I am totally going to participate today ;)
I have done the same thing, said something I should have maybe just kept to myself...oops I'd want a do-over too!
Oh wow, yea, that's definitely a do-over moment! Yikes! I can't imagine how terrified you were of losing your job after that. And I'm sure he hasn't treated you the same ever since, yet you're still stuck working there and dealing with the changed atmosphere. I'm sorry!
haha it's been awhile since I have seen that movie! I am not sure if there is anything I would do over... I would have to think about it long and hard. lol
I've been told I have a voice that "carries" so I've had many incidents like yours!
I am sitting here trying to think of something I would do over to do it better and wow, I came up with too many!! Some of the best days of my life were having my kids, so since I have two and can not choose one, I would love a do over of my wedding day!! It was awesome! I would love to have that day again!!
I would have been so worried! One thoughtless comment can change so much- I wish I didn't know that from much personal experience.
That totally sounds like something that would have happened to me! I'm glad he didn't fire you though, that would have sucked. A lot of people say that they don't have any regrets, but there has to be at least one in someone's life. I have so many...I wouldn't even know where to start. I think though that I might start with that x-boyfriend of mine, who took complete and utter control over my life for 2 years. Yeah...I'll start with him. If I had to do over, I would have never given into his persistent "Please go out with me". That would have saved me a lot of trouble.
Ladies, I am LOVING these answers! Both the ones you've posted here and those of you who have linked up on the MckLinky... you are giving me some great food for thought (a cliche I use WAY too often!). Keep 'em coming!
~Elizabeth
Elizabeth, for the record :-) I wrote my post last night after I saw the sneak peek to the question... I had no idea our intro paragraphs would read almost identically :-) Great minds think alike!
Oh, that is awkward isn't it? I once sent an email to my husband going on and on about my terrible mean boss...yep only thing was I sent it to me my boss instead.
I still can't believe she didn't fire me. We actually became closer after she stopped being angry and hurt.
My re-do is something I regret every time I see my Moms face.
Great question - I got some free therapy out of it!!
I had Mr. Schnellinger for math. I repeated geometry in 9th grade b/c I barely eeked out a B- taking it in 8th grade and didn't understand it. They day I skipped though was during a unit I understood the most first time around and I just felt plain cruddy. Since I had his wife for 8th grade and pretty much told him the truth (that I was bored and had a headache so I skipped), he let me off. I never skipped a class again.
Whoa! Great story. I always say I don't live with any regrets but now that you put it that way...hmmm. I should say IF I have any regrets, the biggest one would be changing job locations after 11yrs at the same place.
I liked where I was. I had tons of vacation. I was getting a lot of respect and notice from the top. I even got to travel. Then a sales rep I worked with for near 15years convinced me to go where she was at. It was supposedly the GREATEST PLACE TO WORK EVER (hear the sales pitch in there?).
I was SNOWED. Not only is it a place in the dark ages (technology wise). Everyone there is either a snob, or a know-it-all. There is no team players. I lost all benefits and vacation and I sit next to someone who curses ALL day. There is not a single happy person there. Not one. I get to spend 8 hours with these people.
I can't put this on my blog since some of them read it and I have to play nice to keep my job. But THANK GOD for you. I feel better just admitting that. :-)
this has me excited for Tuesdays!!!